This year I’ve had the chance to really reflect on the relationships, past and present in my life and which ones were worth fighting for. I’ve always had relationships in my life that have come and gone, a few that I know will be with me forever and one I knew that would last a lifetime. This year I wound up realizing that what I thought was a positive relationship in my life was really a negative and unhealthy one. I made the decision to end my marriage, a relationship of 14 years because I realized the importance of positive relationships, and unfortunately mine was not anymore. The hardest decision I ever had to make became easier because of the other relationships I have in my life. The reason I share this information is because the friend that came into my life shortly before this happened and the relationship I have with her is what pulled me through and kept me a float during this time. She brought back the smiles that were gone and the good that was lost. A very unexpected relationship, but one that I needed in my life to show me the great that is out there in the world. She showed me the true importance of having strong relationships in your life and the happiness they can bring, and I am happy to share the joy she has brought back into my life. There are many kinds of relationships in this world, finding the positive ones became a challenge for me for a long time. Although a once forever relationship has come to an end, it has given me the strength to strive for better, knowing there are people in my life that are there to pick me back up if I fall.
In my family there are many broken relationships, which have made me realize the importance of maintaing the ones I have. The relationship I have with my mother has shown me the pure strength that relationships can hold, and that some cannot be broken. Being able to believe that someone will always be there for you, stand by your side and willing to work through opposing beliefs is a great feeling. Although I feel no relationship or partnership can be perfect. It is what you make of it and the way you work to keep it alive.
I don’t know why certain people come into our lives and why we develop relationships with them, but I know I would not be where I am today in my life if not for many of these relationships I hold, old and new. I am so grateful to the people in my life that have shown me what it is I truly deserve. Maintaining these strong and healthy relationships are not easy, but one that deserves my full attention and commitment.
Hi Kristen,
ReplyDeleteI believe that it is important for us to evaluate our relationships. Sometimes we have to decide whether the relationship is good for us or not. Holding on to the wrong relationship can be unhealthy. We also have to make sure that we are not the cause of unhealthy relationships. Letting go of something that we thought would last forever is hard, but we get through those hard times and move on.
Kristen,
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your story. I believe a painful but honest lesson in growing is knowing what is worth keeping and knowing when to discard something harmful or painful in our lives. It's good when we have positive relationships with people that can guide us during times of doubt and that are there for us when we need reassurance. It's reflections such as these that give us strength and determination to help children in our care learn the value of relationships.
Hi Kristen-
ReplyDeleteI like you never know why people come in and out of our lives, but I believe there is always a reason. It is important to remember that even in a negative relationship, there is something to learn from it. It has taken me years to realize what that lesson might be, but there is always one there.